Q&A With What??

In response to "A Strategic Plan for the NYC Dating Scene"

At 4:08 PM, Anonymous said...
But what What??? needs to remember that she must continually load her pipeline...Just because she has 1 suitor currently a good rule of thumb is to have at least 3x in her pipeline in order to increase her chances of connecting with a deal. What is equally important is for What??? to continually be "hunting"/"prospecting" that is the only way that she will have a fully loaded pipeline. Otherwise, her strategy seems to have merit and it will be very interesting on how it all pans out.

Dear Anonymous,

I completely agree with you regarding your "prospecting" proposal. I believe that it is up to you and your business ethics whether you will put multiple clients to bed at the same time. I personally feel that you must do a certain amount of smooching with your prospects to do proper background research and develop a good strategy. In the cluttered NYC dating market it is wise to prospect a minimum 5 clients at one time. This way you can move forward with all of them just prior to the point of "sealing the deal" and then select the strongest candidate!

Please keep me posted on your "prospecting" endeavors.
-What??

In response to "Obsessed"

At 4:13 PM, Anonymous said...
Ok "what?" I have a doozy for you: Men always say they want a girl who is intelligent, motivated, blah, blah, blah.... So why is it when you tell a man that you have an advanced degree and a stable career they say "oh, your too smart for me." Why are men intimidated by smart women?

Dear Anonymous,

Just a second, let me get out my "single and fabulous!" soap box. There I am now ready to preach to you the mantra that has helped me survive dating in NYC. You are single and fabulous exclamation point! [Yes, I am very aware that this is a beyond blatant Sex in the City reference but I just can't avoid it. It is true and we should all be proud that a show was created that we can identify with even though no woman that writes a weekly column could EVER afford an apartment of that size even if it is rent stabilized and buy as many Manolo Blahnik's as Carrie Bradshaw.] So back to my point, you are single and fabulous! Don't you ever forget that. The men that tell you in a bar that they are looking for smart intelligent women are in fact bottom feeders. If they were really looking for smart intelligent women do you think that they would be hanging out at a bar in hopes that a beer goggled girl will fall into their arms? No, they are in a bar because they are looking for the low hanging fruit [see Strategy for Dating posting] and the easy lay, now don't get me wrong, there is a time and a place for everything but if you are looking for true, long lasting can't live with out you love, you are not likely going to find it in a bar. So, when you go to a bar, make sure bring along your single and fabulous soap box, do shots proudly from atop it and then laugh in the bottom feeders faces as you walk arm in arm out the door with your girlfriends, realizing that you are better off for the time being this way.

Cheers to that!
-What??